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Why Family Caregivers Should Self-Care

According to Health in Aging Foundation, as many as 43.5 million Americans care for older parents, grandparents, spouses and other older loved ones.

By: Sylvia Slezak | Nov 2023


Did you know that caregiving is one of the hardest jobs out there? That's why every November we celebrate National Family Caregivers Month.

Realistically, family caregivers should be celebrated every day, not just one month out of the year. However, we take this time to recognize and honor caregivers nationally, educate communities, raise awareness around caregiving issues, and work to increase support for our nation's caregivers.

Here are some caregiver tips for sanity and success.

When all of a sudden you are thrown into the role of "Caregiver" there may not be any warning of what awaits you. This is a job you may not have signed up for, but it seems to have evolved into a world of its own. At times you may feel a sense of despair and hopelessness mingled with a sense of obligation and duty to your loved one. Caregiving can be a full-time job. The roles of a child and a parent are reversed and can be unsettling at times. Do you get angry and frustrated that you are in this position, and that your mother or father isn't the dynamic, independent, self-reliant person they once were? Their memory is a bit impaired and their body seems to need more rest.  Your "caregiver" role will change as behaviors change. There are circumstances that you can and cannot control.


  • Learn to control what you can and let go of what you cannot.
  • Try the Q-TIP method: Quit Taking It Personally. That is a tall order. Much easier said than done, but it is worth the stress-relief.
  • Remain patient and calm.  Don't argue or try to convince them. Realize there is no connection between what you are saying and what their mind is comprehending. Or more like, not comprehending. 
  • Accept behaviors as a result of the disease and try to work through it. Focus on positive times as they arise and enjoy the good memories.
  • Realize the good you are doing and the care you give does make a difference. Give yourself credit, not guilt, in one of the toughest jobs there is!


  • Ask and accept help and support from others. Communicate your specific needs.
  • Take care of your own health so that you can be strong enough to take care of your loved one.
  • Learn how to communicate effectively with doctors and medical professionals.
  • Take respite breaks often. Caregiving is hard work.
  • Watch out for signs of depression and don't delay in getting professional help when you need it.
  • Be open to new technologies that can help you care for your loved one.
  • Organize medical information so it's up-to-date and easy to find. Make sure legal documents are in order.


As a caregiver, you sacrifice your time, life, energy, bodily needs, family, and finances. The best thing you can do for the person you are caring for is to stay physically and emotionally strong.

  • Keep a schedule and make sure you get plenty of rest!
  • Designate a specific place and time for yourself, either alone or with others.
  • Find that special place for meditation and reflection. 
  • Have interaction with your loved one

Are you a caregiver or know of one? Are you finding yourself at witt's end? Are you in need of health care providers, counseling, physicians, physical therapists, medical/hospital equipment, transportation, financial assistance, respite care services, adult day care, massage & health spas, etc.?

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